#1 New York Times bestselling author John C. Maxwell brings his common sense self-help lessons to teens!
Any setback–a championship loss, a bad grade, a botched audition-can be seen as a step forward when teens possess the right tools and leadership skills to turn that loss into a gain of knowledge. Drawing on nearly fifty years of leadership experience, Dr. Maxwell provides a roadmap for becoming a true learner, someone who wins in the face of problems, failures, and losses
Parents there are many ways to enhance your child’s leadership level. However, I want to focus on 3 highly effective ways to improve your child’s leadership skills. You have to take advantage of home field, take charge of away games and take the time to explain the rules. I will walk you through and explain the importance of taking home field advantage. How to make the most out of when your child is involved in away games (activities outside the home). And the importance of both explaining and ensuring your child understands basic rules of life.
- Parents you need to play an active role in mentoring and assisting your children in the choice of those they play and hang out with. This is best done on your home field. Parents, home field is your home. You are there everyday. It is the place both you and your kids live, eat and sleep. Invite your children’s friends over to your home or yard for play time, activities, to work on school work, etc. so you can get to know your child’s friends.
Now it is not going to be the most convenient thing to do. Home field can be loud, messy, demanding and infringe on your personal time. I so get it, believe me I do. But think about it. Home is the best place to positively influence your son or daughter’s interactions with their friends. This is much harder to do when your child is playing away from home. Outside your home you lose home field advantage and diminish your overall influence on your child’s interactions with others. Be the influencer and make play, homework, sleep overs or whatever the activity, a home field event. From you your child will learn to positively influence others. And if your child is positively influencing others, they are moving well along the path of self leadership.
- Now while home is best, not every game is played on home field. So mom, dad, grand parents, guardians, you have to take charge of away games. Specifically, you need to place them in areas where they will have a chance to interact with adult mentor leaders who can inspire them. I have a friend, who works with me in the Royal Ranger ministry. Royal Rangers is a christian mentorship program created for boys and young men. Some of the kids call him Big Daddy Bill. And he is that, a fatherly mentor to his young charges. He regularly challenges them to be the best they can be. He also holds them accountable for how they lead themselves. Parents place their sons into this program for its positive mentorship and its ability to teach leadership skills. Also, because the program helps develop their sons into the next generation of servant leaders.
Joel Olsteen has said, “You need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to rise higher, people that make you better. Don’t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.” Parents, choose wisely where your child spends time away from home. Engage them with mentors who can inspire them, as well as, affirm your family values. The foundation of your child’s life is being laid down here and now. It is from this foundation that everything they can be, will be built upon. Let’s not limit their leadership foundation. Expand your child’s opportunities to become positively self led. Give them every opportunity to be around positive examples, so they can hear, see and learn from successful leaders.
- We’ve touched on two of the 3 highly effective ways to improve your child’s leadership skills. The third way is this, Parents you need to teach your children the rules of the game. You have teach basic manners and how to behave. Rest assure, if you don’t teach your child how to behave, the world will. More times than not, it won’t be the type of behavior you wish your child to emulate. If normal looks like being rude, disrespectful, discourteous, bad tempered, a bully, or any combination there of, this is what your child will likely gravitate downwards to. Children need to know that it is abnormal to be rude, disrespectful, discourteous, bad tempered, and or a bully.
Solomon, King of Isreal said, “Though you may be wise, foolish friends will eventually destroy you. Though you may be foolish, wise friends will show and teach you success. This is an easy way to prosper.” Poor choices in friends and acquittances will have an eventual adverse affect on your child. A poor choice never enhances anything. A foolish choice only has the power to lessen or destroy, never the power to prosper This is what Solomon meant when he said foolish friends will eventually destroy you. And the same can be said in modern times. Vanilla Ice, a former pop icon and current DIY (Do It Yourself) TV host once stated, “Show me your friends and I would show you who your are.
So, parents, who are your children? Are they the foolish ones or the wise ones? The answer, parents, has a lot to do with your influence as their parents. If you wish for them to grow to be the “wise ones” then influence who your kids to hang out with. Be watchful for those “friends” who regularly drift towards or revel in bad behavior. Such negative acquaintances will limit your child’s self leadership success. John C. Maxwell says, “Leadership ability determines a person’s level of effectiveness.” If your child cannot lead themselves, learn to respect others, be courteous, control their temper, and add value to others; they limit their overall effectiveness as future leaders.
The 3 highly effective ways to improve your child’s leadership skills are: Take advantage of home field by influencing your child and their friends in your home or yard; take charge of away games by placing your child where they can learn from positive adult mentor leaders; and take the time to ensure your child knows the rules of the game. When you as parents and guardians take charge by playing an active role in mentoring your child, you are growing their ability to self lead.